Hatching an idea

I feel the need to write because I want to break through, to discover something that is just about here and needs a bit of a push.

That’s what I thought until I put those words down here; for weeks now I have been banging and crashing around in a search for the idea that is about to break out, the idea that needs release, I need to proclaim some kind of discovery. That’s what I though until I wrote that first paragraph, and until I looked at it long enough to realize that there is no great idea ready for hatching, that I have been planning a coming-out party when there is nothing new about to emerge. I was planning the party in order to have a party, nothing more than that ego trip of self-proclamation. I don’t have anything new to say, nothing new to address, nothing new to conquer; but I like the idea of thinking that I do.

Here is the background for what I am trying to say: I enjoyed writing a few satisfying posts during the winter, when they came out well I felt good, when a few people read them and commented I felt better; they were early morning discoveries that added meaning to my day, and then the well went dry. I had nothing to say other than the few things I had done, I have no new way of saying the old ideas, I have no message that can’t be found many other places. I missed that writing.

And then I began to make explanations for my frustration, some discovery was about to burst forth with my help; I felt that I now had a serious chore to find a new idea and share it with everyone—-but I don’t, it was a fool’s errand, and here is why.

The idea that tomorrow will be as today, that the continuum has no breaks or quantum jumps was depressing. I want the excitement of a brand new idea or challenge, and so I manufactured one, a Potemkin’s village made out of the following:

I am about to turn seventy this Halloween, a significant number, no longer will I be anything other than seventy and counting. The second thing is that the work I have been doing at the Chronic Pain Clinic is making me healthier than I have been in decades, a most unexpected result. The third thing is that I have been put back on anti-depressant medication for the pain, but it is also doing things for my mood, I had thought that anti-depressants were something that I had long got past, that my brain was making its own feel-good molecules and needed no assistance; this is known as denial. I am going backwards and forwards at the same time; healthier in body; and yet needing medication to alter my mood, just as I had used them years before.

I walked past a senior-center that the City of Chicago runs just around the corner from me, I was out doing my cardio-vascular exercises when I looked in through their window, saw the umpteen individuals sitting and doing what appeared to be board games. There was something important for me to see here; the Pain Clinic doesn’t care about my age other than for calculating my target heart beat, the subject doesn’t really come up over there; and yet here were people of age similar to mine hunched over boards, moving their markers, killing time and chatting. I couldn’t get that image out of my mind.

There are dozens of platitudes about age and aging that are as helpful as breasts on a boar; this is a complicated business that has no role models that fit me exactly; I don’t know if they fit anyone exactly, or do people fit themselves into the model of the geezer that is put before them. A good friend asked me recently what role model I was using for this next chapter of my adventure?, I have none.

John McCain is an active older guy, but his mind was frozen into the patterns of long ago, he is just a champion for what he thinks was right back then. There are older businessmen, but life has shown that I am no businessman, they take that stuff seriously, they really believe that acquisition and control are important. I have never written anything for publication, so don’t know that road enough to find my way very far down it. I never earned a college degree, could never figure out which direction to go there nor reason to expend all of that energy; I was too young and unformed. I can’t find a future down any of those paths.

What I am trying to say is that I had erected a monument to being a person of a certain age who should be acting and feeling a certain age—-and the monument was made of cardboard. The new idea that I have been incubating is that there is no new idea, no roadside marker telling me to change my ways to those of someone who should be getting ready to shut down, preparing to wrap it up, or in love with the past. There may have been a valid sign years ago when bodies wore out quicker, minds could be in love with the past; but I don’t find that to be so now.

I don’t know if and what changes I will find in life as I go on, but I am beginning to think that there will be less than I thought, that the jokes of old age may be becoming passé.

I do feel better, clearer for having written this; but it isn’t over, this is the first draft of an attitude that I need to install in my soul, I hope to refine it.